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Be Yourself to Avoid Hurt

by Single Man

When you are trying to get someone to date you, and or hook up with someone, it’s rather normal for you to get nervous, and sometimes even resort to doing crazy things that you think are needed, but in-fact, aren’t. But you need to ask yourself, when you are attempting to impress someone you like, which are you better off doing? Just be yourself or put on an act of someone you aren’t?

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Putting on an act:

A lot of people that put on an act would probably argue that they aren’t really putting on any act. Some use the excuse that they are simply putting their best foot forward, and you know, maybe they are speaking the truth, perhaps there is SOME truth to this, but no matter what the fact to this is that it’s hard to ‘keep your best foot forward’ all the time. And no matter what! When you always put your best foot forward, whether its on purpose or not, you will always be hiding your character flaws, and flaws are needed to be known in a person.

So, Don Diebel, who is a singles expert, has said that to be fair to your date, or would be date, you should really just be yourself. But why? Why be yourself? Well, Consider it like this:

You are out on a date with a fantastic girl that you really really like. So you try to impress her and you get her to fall in love with you by being caring, romantic, attentive, funny and witty. So you keep this going until she is really into you, and then you can’t keep up with yourself and the real you shines on through. And so, you are no longer trying to impress the lady you fell in love with and had fall in love with you too and thus you are no longer trying to win her over. So now you are no longer being caring, romantic, attentive, funny or witty and all that good stuff. This is very much unfair to the girl you made fall in love with you. The reason it is unfair to her is because you made her fall in love with a guy who was pretending to be something he wasn’t 100%, someone that you aren’t really. You risk the girl leaving when you worked so hard to win her over like a cheat. You need to be yourself, she can love you for who you are too, you just need to be YOU first.

So, good luck guys and gals, be yourself always.